I Got 99 Problems...
Today, I recorded a podcast episode all about PROBLEMS. I don't know about you, but my anxiety LOVESSS to immediately hop to pain and suffering. It gets juiced up when I really spiral and hyper focus on what's going “wrong.” An instrumental piece of me healing and holding my anxiety with compassion was having a deep relationship to ease and pleasure. When pleasure and play is a monumental part of your foundational living, it’s hard for anxiety to take over. Here’s why: pleasure tells the brain and the body that we are safe to relax. When we are safe, it is harder for anxiety to creep in and wreck havoc.
Pleasure, play and get this: CELEBRATION have been game changers. Celebration has reminded me that duality and nuance can exist. I can both be deeply grieving something and ALSO find joy in the moments by celebrating myself and looking for the gratitude for what IS going right in my life.
So here’s dare #1: I dare you everyday to celebrate, find gratitude and trudge up what you want aka DESIRE. Gala Darling has a great “magical morning practice” and it goes like this:
Grab a friend, accountability buddy, journal or speak out loud…
Daily celebrations and/ or brags of things that you are proud of (it can be as simple as I brag I woke up to my alarm this morning or to as big as I booked a new client:: the point is you are highlighting all the good you are doing)
Gratitudes (tap into your body for this one, what are you deeply grateful for right now?)
Daily desire (how you want the day to go as if it has already happened… Today, was amazing because….)
Future desires as if they have already happened (I am so happy and grateful that… insert whatever you are wanting to have.. act and speak as if it has happened now)
Not only do these practices feel GOOD, there is science that backs this work. When you get behind feeling good and what you desire, you more easily align yourself with action steps to get closer to your goals! #doublewin
Shifting into a more celebratory mindset truly shifts everything. It helps put things into perspective, and it helps you hold the sticky stuff with a little bit more grace and gratitude. SO, will you pinky promise to attempt to celebrate more frequently?
Speaking of PROBLEMS, I’ve recently been asked by a colleague… “So, what problems do you solve?” It took me back for a minute, because I feel like my work that my clients and I co create is so rich and truly a foundation of how to live. But when I started to type out a list, it reinforced my gratitude for my clients and facilitating this deep, meaningful work. There's absolutely more “problems I solve” but here are a few main ones:
Helping folks that suffer from anxiety to have a deep relationship to self soothing and grounding
Holding clients to feel safe and confident around their sexuality, dating, love and relationships
Going from the brain to the body
Creating real, deep, lasting self love
Empowering clients to find and know all sides of themselves; to learn from their shadow and to learn to lead from their highest self
Letting go of a life they hate and creating something joyous
Reclaiming their aliveness, power and turn on
Dating from a place of joy and turn on vs. fear and overwhelm
Shifting a mindset full of negativity and panic to one that feels nourishing, exciting and inspiring
Helping clients thaw out any emotional & physical numbness to come into aliveness
Taking clients from a crunchy/ dry place to a life filled with play and pleasure
Teaching clients to use pleasure and play as a healing balm in their life
Releasing shame and any blocks clients may hold around their sexuality to transmute it to a sacred relationship
Letting go of people pleasing, playing small and not owning their power
I honestly could type 700 more "problems" I solve, but above all; I believe my deepest offering is empowering clients to learn how to hold themselves through good and bad times. They leave with endless tools and principles to live a life that turns them on.
If you know me, you know one of my deepest desires is to have this work accessible for all. Which is why I made an affordable, no brainer offering. A 90 minute “Ignite your passion, pleasure and purpose” power session. In this call we will comb through anything that is keeping you stuck and we will shift to what you are desiring. You will leave feeling excited, inspired and ignited with plenty of tools and tips. This session is great for rejuvenating yourself and getting you back on track to where you want to be. It’s also a fabulous tasting of what it would be like to work 1:1 with me! A little tizerrr if you will! AYYY we love appetizers up in here!!
Be sure to schedule this epiccc power call HERE. Click my calendar and then scroll to the bottom and hit the last option! I can't freaking wait to see you soon!