3 Easy Steps for More Self Love NOW 😍

If you know me, you know that I am a nuance girlie through and through. Something that really grinds my gears is the limited understanding that we as a society have for self love. We have boiled that honey bunny to the bare bones and she has gotten quite the bad rap. WooWee, I can easily go on a tangent about the lack of nuance, understanding and overall crunch we have around self love; but I DIGRESS. That is a conversation for another day, hah! Today… let’s get into the goods. Let’s talk about some super simple tools that we can implement on the regular.
 

Step 1 :

Every time you pass a mirror or a reflective surface (whether it’s a zoom call, a selfie, etc) stop, drop, and celebrate 3 things about yourself. You can highlight your physical beauty, your soul, your brains. But I want that to be a reminder and an initiation to find the rightness of you. The beauty, the brilliance. Instead of scrutinizing and picking apart... find what’s right. Find what is gorgeous, worthy and incredible.
 

Step 2 :

Daily celebrations. Every day I invite you to find mini, medium and large celebrations of you. It can be as big as I got a raise, to as “small” as I showered, I advocated for myself. The goal here is to get GOOD at tracking how you are rocking it. It’s easy to think we’re not crushing it. But the point of this exercise is to track those mini wins. When we track what’s going right, it compounds and builds confidence. When we feel confident, we go out in the world and live our dreams. So start celebrating those mini wins, start tracking what you are doing great.
 

Step 3 :

The time is NOW. So often you hear folks holding off using the good silverware, lighting the gorgeous candle or spraying themselves in the expensive perfume. Sadly, we are not promised tomorrow: the time is now. It’s corny, but there’s no dress rehearsals, no golden years. The time to live is NOW and...in the now. Instead of being cheap with yourself, be generous. Being stingy with yourself can include so many things including negative self-talk, not using the nice things in hope for the “right time” or just not allowing yourself to live out loud. You can feel when you’re holding yourself back. I know it can trigger so much; including scarcity and fear, but it is time to let yourself live. Allow yourself to take up space and to live how you desire.

These simple tools sound…simple. And yettt, I see folks resisting them like the plague. My teacher used to say, the easiest thing in the world is to understand self love/pleasure as a concept, but actually showing up and doing it regularly is one of the most confrontational things. It is hard breaking patterns and changing how we speak and treat ourselves. It is a new pathway and you are deserving of giving yourself the life that you always wanted.

 This is why I am a big advocate for coaching. If I had to do my self love journey on my own, I knew I would avoid that shit and flounder. I would look away, find “better” things to fill my time with and just not show up for myself in ways I know I should and would like to. Hiring a coach to hold me accountable for my dreams and my self love journey has been nothing short of life changing. They say we heal in community. Community to hold us, champion us and rally behind us. That’s why I am here, that’s my job. It is my work to hold you when you are avoidant, don’t want to be kind to yourself and throw a temper tantrum. I get to hold all of those sticky emotions with you as you slowly get great at holding yourself more and more.

My wish is that these resources are available for everyone. Because as I always say, everyone needs support and help, even when things are seemingly going “well”. This is one of the main reasons why I created my free mojo makeover assessment. It is a free call where we discuss what isn’t working in your life and what you want to create. We create a plan for more self love, aliveness and pleasure.

Here are some results from past calls:

✨increased confidence

✨ the chutzpah to ask that amazing person out and to start a dream relationship

✨quitting jobs that burn them out to starting their own biz

✨ owning their true desires

✨ having a new found relationship to their body

✨ creating their dream life, letting go of others expectations of them and tuning into their needs

✨ opening up their heart to love in ways they never have before

✨ finding play and pleasure in their life again, when it’s been absent for years

✨ changing the way they speak and take care of themselves; having a genuine relationship to self care and respect

… and much much more.

If something inside you is curious, let’s chat. If there is hesitations or questions you may have about this free call, ask away. What questions do you have about the free mojo makeover assessment? How can I help you decide if this would be a good fit and what you are needing?

If you are ready to jump in and indulge on this fabulous resource, book your call here.

I genuinely hope to see you take advantage of this free tool. Either way, please keep me posted on your self love journey and how I can support you. Sending you the most love.

Sending BIG Love & Juicy Vibezzz,

-Erica

{because life is brighter when we shine} Please keep me posted on how your self love journey is going. I love to hear it <3